We’re excited to be kicking off a brand new season at the moment as a result of we missed you. In the present day, we’re speaking about our New Yr’s plans for 2022, working from dwelling, and we’re introducing a brand new humorous phase.
-Elsie’s New Yr’s objectives: Get pleasure from extra time in her dwelling, get up early, and dwell guilt-free.
-Emma’s New Yr’s objectives: Work on her novel, discover treatments for her dry eyes, and to purchase much less junk meals.
-There shall be 16 episodes on this season from January-Could, after which we shall be again on the finish of August.
-Elsie’s unpopular opinion on motherhood: Not worrying about how rapidly your youngsters obtain developmental or academic milestones
-What Emma can be doing if she wasn’t doing her present profession: Personal a cleansing enterprise
-What Elsie can be doing if she wasn’t doing her present profession: Home flipping
Emma: You’re listening to the A Stunning Mess Podcast. We’re excited to kick off a brand new season at the moment with a bit catch-up time as a result of we missed you, some New Yr’s objectives, and plans for 2022, and we’ve got a make money working from home pep discuss and a brand new humorous phase for you. Oh, yeah.
Elsie: Sure, I’m so excited to be again.
Emma: Me too. It’s been type of bizarre.
Elsie: I do know. It’s our first type of lengthy break perhaps that we’ve had since we began?
Emma: For you positively as a result of I had a break for maternity depart.
Emma: However that’s like the one actual lengthy break I’ve achieved from it since we began podcasting a few years in the past.
Elsie: Yeah, effectively, we’re excited. We now have actually spent a while speaking about how we will make issues higher this 12 months. We’ll share a few of that with you on this episode however we’re excited for the brand new 12 months and type of extra impressed to podcast than ever, huh?
Emma: Sure. Oh, yeah.
Elsie: Okay, so I believed it might be enjoyable to begin off with a bit storytime. So over the Christmas break, it’s type of been some time since Christmas now so we gained’t recap each element of our Christmas for you since you’re like, wow, that was a very long time in the past. There was one actually cute factor that occurred once we had been in Missouri visiting household and I wished Emma to inform the story as a result of it simply warmed my coronary heart, like a cup of scorching chocolate.
Emma: Oh, me too. I’ve a Slack group with my e book membership, all the ladies in my e book membership and I instantly despatched them a photograph of this. I used to be similar to, I’ve to inform somebody however I don’t actually wish to put this on social media. Anyway, and now I’m telling you on the podcast, so Elsie’s women Nova and Marigold each bought me a Christmas current, which, you already know, you don’t should get your aunt a Christmas current. So I felt very particular, simply that. And I’ll say what Nova bought me too, Nova bought me a cookbook, which is about mooncakes and Chinese language cooking, Chinese language baking. In order that’s actually thrilling and we’re positively gonna make one thing from that and that’s actually up my alley.
Elsie: I purchased precisely what they mentioned, precisely what they mentioned. I simply went on Amazon and acquired it for his or her presence in order that’s what Nova mentioned a Chinese language cookbook after which…
Emma: Sure. Then Marigold bought me, in my dimension, Elsa princess costume.
Elsie: It’s so cute so she put it on instantly. Emma is coming to go to us truly subsequent week for her birthday and we’re going to have a princess tea get together. We’re going to make these little layered sandwiches, like a tea home in London so we’re tremendous excited.
Emma: Sure and when you don’t know Elsie’s daughter Marigold, Goldie, she wears her princess attire, particularly Elsa princess attire on a regular basis. So it’s like she gave me one thing that she herself would have wished if she didn’t have already got a bunch. So it simply felt very considerate in a three-year-old method, virtually four-year-old method now as a result of it’s virtually her birthday. It was superior.
Elsie: It positively means you’re particular.
Emma: I felt it. I opened it up and I used to be like, oh my gosh, that is perhaps the perfect present she may have ever picked out for me and I like it a lot. I used to be like, please match me, please match me and it did. In order that was superb.
Elsie: Sure. Yeah. Oh, I imply as a result of often while you unwrap a gift from a child, it’s like a drawing with googly eyes glued on it.
Emma: A candle. Yeah.
Elsie: So yeah, it was enjoyable. I had a enjoyable Christmas and I hope you probably did too.
Emma: I did. It was superior. Oscar’s first Christmas so it was nice. Simply totally different and particular. So it’s a brand new 12 months although, transferring on from Christmas. Let’s speak about New Yr’s objectives.
Elsie: I’ll say we referred to as this episode New Yr, Similar Me as a result of I like it when folks say that as a result of I truly love New Yr’s objectives. I’ve no downside with them. I relate with each side of the talk. Like I’ve no downside with them and I like them however I additionally do really feel like lots of people make objectives that they will’t and gained’t hold like even for a complete week.
Emma: Then they’re unhappy.
Elsie: Yeah, it’s simply type of like a womp womp. I feel that we’re on the verge of perhaps we may name ourselves like objective consultants, proper? We’re actually into objectives. You wouldn’t name your self that?
Emma: I imply, I assume so.
Elsie: I’m fairly unfastened with after I’ll name myself an knowledgeable so I’m simply gonna hold the label.
Emma: It type of dawned on me, as you mentioned, I used to be like, I don’t know if I might name myself an knowledgeable on something so perhaps that’s a bit excessive. Anyway, we do love objectives and so we’ve bought them.
Elsie: I feel that we all know the artwork of constructing a objective that works so it’s like the precise dimension and the precise little contingencies the place it’s such as you don’t should be excellent to only do it, I feel is sort of a huge a part of it. So anyway, we thought we might share two objectives. That is only for enjoyable. I positively assume on mine, mine are assured I’ll do them. It’s not like a perhaps it’s prefer it’s occurring. So my first one is poh, renovation stuff, effectively, yeah, I’m positively gonna do this, that’s all I do. It says renovation clever, we’re about to show a nook and I’m actually hoping to spend 2022 having fun with extra time in our dwelling, film nights, pool events, pizza, no matter. That truly hits actually good for me proper now as a result of the previous couple of months, you already know, having your area be a development zone is fairly, it takes its emotional toll. I’m a reasonably robust individual and I’ve been by renovations earlier than. I knew precisely what I used to be entering into. I signed up for it and I’m blissful that we’re doing it and it’s transferring fairly quick. It’s like happening schedule, however it’s nonetheless so onerous, it simply is it doesn’t matter what. So I feel that for the sunshine on the finish of the tunnel is to only take into consideration all of the reminiscences that you simply’re going to make within the area and it makes it really feel price it. Like why am I doing all of this? It’s for the board video games that we’re about to play within the eating room so yeah, that helps me quite a bit.
Emma: My first objective, oh, so I assume I’ll say too, I type of consider my objectives as like quarterly objectives. I simply do higher pondering of the shorter time period, even when it’s one thing that I do plan to do for the entire 12 months. By some means it simply helps me. Final 12 months, we had been speaking in regards to the 12 week 12 months, that e book. I similar to type of a month lengthy objective or a quarterly objective after which I can hold it going if I need or no matter. So anyway, the primary one, although, is figure on my novel. I hold happening walks anytime it’s not terribly chilly. It’s chilly on a regular basis now but when it’s simply respectable sufficient to go on a stroll, then I’m on the market strolling. Recently, I’m both listening to my audiobook for the A Stunning Mess e book membership.
Elsie: Which one are you studying presently?
Emma: What’s the one? Tara Mohr? Enjoying Huge, Tara Mohr. Sure, that’s the one. I simply bought yesterday to the half the place she’s going to do the visualization. So I used to be like, oh, I can’t be strolling whereas I do that since you’re supposed to shut your eyes. So I needed to pause it and I want to try this earlier than I can take heed to extra of it. So anyway, if I’m not listening to a e book although, I’m fascinated by my novel. I’ve give you quite a lot of like, I type of get hung up in spots. I typically know the define, typically, like loosely. I all the time depart area for surprises, which is the tip that my good friend Stephen King mentioned in his e book, On Writing. He’s probably not my good friend, however I consider him that method.
Elsie: I completely declare Stephen King as one in all my pals. He’s so fantastic.
Emma: Me too and it may be a one-way avenue.
Elsie: I like his e book as effectively. We’ll hyperlink his e book in our present notes. If anybody is attempting to jot down a novel or kinda like something, positively learn this as a result of it’s so good.
Emma: It’s actually good. Yeah, I do know typically the place the books going and I positively know the ending, however I’ve quite a lot of area for surprises. Anyway, as I’m strolling quite a lot of occasions, I’m type of pondering by a bit hang-up I’ve in regards to the e book like oh, how is that this character going to determine this piece out? As a result of I do know they should determine it out however I don’t understand how they’re going to do it. I’m simply all the time pondering by issues like that. Recently, I’ve had quite a lot of like, oh, effectively, this might occur. I don’t know, one thing about strolling and being outdoors simply will get my mind juices going. It’s like that within the bathe. I’ve an thought, which each occasions I can’t actually write it down. In case you ever see me out strolling my neighborhood each every so often, I’m simply standing there typing on my cellphone. It’s often me making a be aware of one thing I don’t wish to overlook. I similar to, oh, yeah, that will work, you already know. So anyway, so engaged on my novel. I want to seek out extra time in my week to try this. Particularly like a devoted hour or two the place I may perform a little little bit of deep work. Having a very onerous time discovering area for deep work recently in my life. It seems like I work in like one-hour increments after which I’ve to do one thing else after which one thing interrupts me.
Elsie: What does deep work imply?
Emma: Simply the place you may focus for a very long time. My work week will get damaged up by conferences quite a bit, which is completely nice. It’s onerous to be like I used to be simply in a gathering and now I’m going to assume deeply about this utterly different factor for half-hour till my subsequent assembly prefer it’s actually onerous to try this for me. I type of want area to get into it after which come out of it. Then I can take into consideration one thing else. So anyway, I’m engaged on that type of like perhaps I may work a bit later at night time however that’s type of my time after Oscar goes to sleep to hang around with Trey. So I’m like, type of hesitant on that. Then I’m additionally like, I may get up earlier, however I’m like, I’ve a seven-month-old and he’s actually only recently began sleeping by the night time and I simply type of wish to sleep. So I don’t know, I like looking for the area in my day however it’s a bit tough.
Elsie: I positively relate with that wrestle and I feel that lots of people will. Yeah, similar to discovering your, even an hour or you already know, like for me, I all the time assume that I want extra time than I actually need. In order that’s additionally one in all my struggles is like if I wish to clear my closet, I feel that I want a complete afternoon and perhaps I actually solely want an hour.
Emma: Yep, that’s true. That’s a very good level.
Elsie: It’s like having the time blocked off a bit bit greater than I want is vital to me too similar to to assist me really feel like I’m not gonna be rushed the entire time or no matter. That may be a good one and I’m excited for you this 12 months on your novel.
Emma: Yeah, I considered like a tagline yesterday. Which doesn’t actually need a tagline, I’m all the time simply randomly fascinated by issues.
Elsie: All the things wants a tagline.
Emma: I feel it’s simply three phrases. If individuals are like, what’s the e book about? I like looking for a fast method. I feel I’m simply gonna begin telling folks it’s about motherhood, miscarriage, and homicide. That’s it. I like that it’s 3 M’s. I just like the alliteration.
Elsie: I do know that lots of people are excited on your novel so that is gonna be thrilling.
Emma: What’s your second objective?
Elsie: Okay, so for the brand new 12 months so I’ve been the individual in my household who sleeps within the longest, which to be honest, is just like sleeping till 645ish often. It’s not like I’m truly sleeping in. It’s simply that everybody else wakes up sooner than me. Then all final 12 months, it was one thing I used to be actually fighting. I used to be fighting my night time routine and my morning routine, truly however for the morning, it was like I might get up and instantly really feel like I used to be behind. As a result of my husband has already had his previous man kick in the place he wakes up actually early, similar to naturally. It’s similar to every single day, he’s up so early and I’m not as very like that. So anyway, I’m giving this a very enjoyable setup. However one other a part of the setup, so I began rereading Enjoying Huge for the e book membership as a result of we’re going to speak about it subsequent month in February, so I began rereading it. After I bought to the longer term self visualization or the internal mentor visualization, I like that half and I bought a few new issues this time. It was like the identical mentor, the identical visualization, it felt very related from my first expertise, however I bought a few new little bits from it. One in every of them, there’s an element which was to ask the longer term self, what do I have to do now to get the place you’re or no matter, one thing alongside these traces/ I requested that query, and the reply was to strive waking up early. I used to be like, okay. So I began setting my clock for 5am on I feel it was both on January 1st or January 2nd. Now at the moment we’re recording it, it’s just like the eleventh, is it at the moment? So yeah, it’s like every week earlier than the podcast comes out so the eleventh. So anyway, I’ve been doing it, I assume 10 entire days now. I’ve been doing it simply on the weekdays solely and never Saturday and Sunday. Saturday and Sunday, type of taken a chill. It has been giving me a full two hours of alone work time each morning, it’s a big distinction. can already inform it’s completely price it however yeah, similar to taking that leap for some cause was actually onerous for me. What’s your subsequent objective?
Emma: My second objective is perhaps type of silly to some folks however it’s vital to me, is I’m attempting to work extra on my dry eyes.
Elsie: Oh, sure.
Emma: I’ve talked about this earlier than. I nonetheless simply have these terribly dry eyes. It type of impacts my life a bit bit. It makes it onerous for me to love, in the midst of the night time, if I do have to get up Oscar associated stuff, I really feel like I can’t see typically or like, my eyes are so watery. Generally after I’m driving, particularly if it’s getting darkish, which it will get darkish at like 430. So, you already know, simple to be out driving after that at this level within the 12 months. The lights from different vehicles and issues., I don’t know. It simply it’s actually annoying and I simply really need more healthy eyes.
Elsie: In case you’ve by no means met anybody like this, driving with Emma at night time, it’s like scary. No, I’m severe. It’s a actual downside. I’m positive that it might offer you quite a lot of aid when you didn’t have to fret as a result of we’ve had a few occasions earlier than the place you felt virtually panicked since you felt such as you couldn’t see and also you couldn’t drive in any respect. That’s not cool. No, yeah. I do know final time, we talked about it, lots of people despatched you ideas and concepts.
Emma: Sure and I’ve achieved quite a lot of these issues. Right here’s my downside is I’m not very constant. In order that’s principally the objective proper now could be I’m attempting to constantly put on my glasses extra like I’m carrying them proper now whereas we’re recording. I don’t love carrying glasses, however I noticed one in all my hang-ups was I by no means go to the expense of shopping for prescription sun shades. I wish to go on walks and typically I have to run errands and stuff and I hate like oh I don’t have my glasses on, what do I do?
Elsie: How do you not have prescription sun shades?
Emma: I do know I all the time similar to was like oh, it’s like you must purchase a complete one other pair. You already know what I imply? It’s a complete factor and I’m like oh do I wish to spend the additional cash?
Elsie: It’s like one thing you’ll use every single day. I’m so mad at you. Did you order some?
Emma: So anyway, I purchased so I’ve a few pairs of prescription sun shades. I’ve a bunch of glasses that I like carrying like I feel they’re cute. They’re light-weight as a result of I hate heavy heavy glasses or glasses that pinch your nostril or pinch the aspect of your head so I’ve a bunch that I like now. That’s been a couple of years within the going after which I’m additionally attempting to be extra constant about placing my eye drops, I’ve particular eye drops that are available like little vials, and I’m attempting to be extra constant about placing these in earlier than I fall asleep at night time. So I’m simply attempting to be extra in keeping with all of the issues that I do know I’m imagined to do and simply hold attempting to enhance. I do assume it has improved some the final couple of years, however I’m simply attempting to be a bit extra constant as a result of like something in life, like train or skincare or something, I really feel like the principle factor that’s so boring, however it’s true, is simply being constant. That’s going to make the most important distinction, you already know, in order that’s what I’m attempting to do with my dry eyes, in case anybody cares about that? There you go.
Elsie: I assure you somebody cares. Okay, effectively, that’s an incredible objective. I’m glad that you simply’re gonna maintain that it’s best to all the time maintain issues which can be going to make you a more healthy individual and be capable to dwell a extra accessible life.
Emma: Yeah, I feel too, like I used to up to now, consider it as extra like an oh, if I simply do that, then there’ll be a end line. Now I’m type of like no, I don’t assume there’s a end line, I feel that is like maintaining a healthy diet. It’s one thing you must get within the behavior of and do your entire life principally. Okay. Then these are two objectives. However do you’ve got something that you’re reducing out or quitting this 12 months?
Elsie: I’m going to give up consuming sugar ceaselessly. Simply kidding. I really feel like that’s the type of factor folks often say and it’s like, okay, like, perhaps, perhaps not. Right here’s my mine for actual, mine is I’ve been engaged on this for a couple of years and it’s robust, however I’m attempting to dwell guilt-free. Guilt is like one thing that for no matter cause, I don’t assume I can, like, clarify why I’m like this, however for no matter cause, it’s one thing that’s actually ingrained in me and that I actually wrestle with. I really feel responsible about issues that I’m not even attempting to repair. I really feel responsible about issues that I don’t want to repair or that I didn’t do fallacious. I really feel responsible about or frightened about what folks assume, you already know, simply that type of stuff. Like I feel folks, you get it, proper? So I’m actually engaged on simply type of like residing freed from that, similar to letting or not it’s okay. Like when somebody requested me to, like, I get quite a lot of emails which can be asking me to do issues I don’t wish to do, proper? That’s like a traditional factor that anybody in our section of profession would have. For me to get to the purpose the place I can simply say like, no, thanks is such a giant step, you already know, to both not keep away from it, or to say sure to one thing I don’t wish to do, or to say perhaps however to really simply say like no, is like so onerous for some cause. So anyway, that’s my huge one for this 12 months. I really feel like I’ve made some progress however I’d wish to get into the mothership of that type of way of life. What about you?
Emma: Yeah, I like that. I really feel like my line, which truly mentioned it to you the opposite day about one thing is like I don’t have the capability to care about that this season.
Elsie: She says it about every part. Really, you’re actually good at like, perhaps we may swap one little a part of our mind. You may have the a part of my mind that will have purchased 85 pairs of sun shades by now and I can have the a part of your mind that’s capable of simply say no.
Emma: That will be a very good swap. Really, we might be unstoppable. Okay, mine is once more, I type of consider it as a quarterly factor, however it’s principally to purchase much less junk meals from the grocery retailer. So this doesn’t imply I’m not consuming sugar. I’m positively consuming sugar. It doesn’t imply that I’m not like baking stuff. That’s positively baking stuff.
Elsie: Emma’s a professional sugar individual.
Emma: Oh yeah. I let Oscar have tiny bits of sugar. Come at me, I’m nice with it. However across the holidays I have a tendency to purchase extra junk meals. I imply, like prepackaged, principally, Oreos begin making it into my home. I’ve bought responsible the Oreo truffles a bit bit.
Elsie: Oreos are one of many keystones of junk meals in my view. They’re positively for me, they’re like the one grocery retailer cookie that turns my head.
Emma: Yeah, precisely. Sure. I like Oreos, however it’s not one thing I’ve in my home all 12 months spherical as a result of I’ll eat all of them 12 months spherical and I don’t have to. So anyway, so it’s similar to type of getting again into the behavior of I simply don’t purchase prepackaged junk meals stuff. I can nonetheless bake cookies if I wish to bake cookies or if I’m out, which I’m by no means out, but when I’m can’t get one thing if I need. To me, all of that’s simpler to say no to or have moderation with but when I’ve a bunch of junk meals I already purchased and it’s in my home. I’m simply going to eat it endlessly within the evenings and in order that’s type of my like, okay, that’s the place I want to chill it.
Elsie: Good. Yeah, I like shopping for wholesome groceries. It’s such a miracle when you’ve got little youngsters. My youngsters will eat no matter. It’s like complicated how in the future relying on what we purchase, they might simply eat cookies your complete day or like the opposite night time, they ate a complete bundle of strawberries and a complete bundle of blueberries in a single night time. Simply because that’s what we purchased. So I do assume that that’s a very good technique similar to shopping for what you wish to eat. If it’s staring you within the face and it appeared good to you at that second, you already know?
Emma: Sure and actually I’m precisely the identical. If I purchase cookies, that’s what I’ll eat that night time. If I purchase a bundle of strawberries the Trey and I’ll eat the entire carton of strawberries. We’re the identical as your youngsters. I simply should solely purchase the strawberries or no matter, no matter it’s.
Elsie: Good, cool. Okay, so let’s speak about what to anticipate in 2022 from the podcast. So to begin with, we had quite a lot of questions coming by in regards to the e book membership schedule. So for these of you who would favor that we inform you precisely once we’re going to do every e book report, I’m sorry to inform you that we will’t decide to that stage of a inflexible schedule, it’s simply not for us.
Emma: It’s referred to as A Stunning Mess.
Elsie: Yeah, we’re truly happening a much less inflexible schedule, you’ll see. So what I’ll inform you in regards to the e book membership, right here’s how one can get ready. If you wish to take part, we’re going to do the primary e book report, and I do assume we’ll do Enjoying Huge first, simply because we’ve each mentioned, we’re already studying in, it’s like, would possibly as effectively. In February, we’re going to begin and we’re going to interrupt them up so there shall be 4 totally different episodes which have a e book report in them. So it’s not gonna be your complete episode simply in regards to the e book, it’s going to be part of the episode. We’ll do Enjoying Huge first, however I can’t say what order we’ll do the opposite ones in as a result of for us, similar to studying these 4 books and doing these podcasts is sufficient of a to-do listing. Placing it on an ideal schedule will not be potential. So yeah, however it’s type of an experiment. It’s like, see how effectively we will make this work, after which perhaps we will enhance it a bit bit subsequent season, no matter. Hopefully, it’ll work nice. However I’ll say in case you are nervous or frightened about it, when you see it come up in an episode, simply wait till you’re achieved studying it, it’s okay. I assume it depends upon if it’s like a fiction e book or a nonfiction e book. I really feel like on a fiction e book, you’ll wish to wait, when you’re planning on studying it as a result of it’s like, there is likely to be spoilers or no matter. However on the nonfiction books, perhaps it might make you want, I all the time love listening to opinions of nonfiction books, after which studying them afterward.
Emma: I do too. Yeah. So yeah, everyone chill.
Elsie: We wouldn’t have an ideal schedule, however we’re having a e book membership. And I feel that’s a very good step.
Emma: Yeah, perhaps subsequent 12 months, we’ll have an ideal schedule, you already know, perhaps it’s like a gradual factor, we’ll see.
Elsie: Then the opposite information is, okay, so that is the primary episode of our new season, we’re going to have 16 episodes on this season from now till Could, after which we’re going to take the summer time off, which is new for us. So we’ll be off June, July, and a part of August, after which we’ll be again on the finish of August. Okay, so final 12 months, I don’t assume we talked about this, I don’t assume we did or would however I bought fairly burned out final 12 months. I used to be actually happy with the episodes we did however I additionally assume that for one, we had been doing numerous mini-episodes. I did a complete bunch of episodes with totally different folks when Emma was on depart. These on the again finish are much more work and quite a bit tougher to do. Like us sitting down chatting, we’re like, we type of have our movement, it’s simply a lot simpler. That’s why we don’t have friends as a lot, simply extra sustainable for us. So anyway, the secret this 12 months is rather like, make it sustainable and make it enjoyable. As a result of we really feel like if it’s enjoyable for us, then it’s like we’ll hold doing it longer. We don’t wish to burn out and give up. It type of bought shut final 12 months the place it was like, ooh, like, what number of years are we gonna do that. With the brand new schedule that we’ve put in place, I really feel we’re like, gonna go robust once more and I’m feeling actually motivated once more.
Emma: So we make new content material on a regular basis. We come out with new podcasts each week. We now have new weblog posts that come out virtually each single day and it’s been that method for like 14 years. We now have an Instagram the place we put authentic content material on a regular basis too. So we make quite a lot of content material and it’s actually enjoyable. We like it. However typically it begins to really feel like a bit little bit of a hamster wheel. I feel when it begins to get to that place, that’s when Elsie and I are like, oh, we have to determine some boundaries right here. If all the pleasure will get sucked out, it’s nice for it to be a job as a result of it actually is, but when all the enjoyment will get sucked out, I really feel like folks listening or studying or nonetheless they’re consuming the content material can really feel it and it’s not as gratifying. It must be joy-filled and inventive and even when it’s not all the time A+ content material, it’s at the very least bought to have the center. It was beginning to lose the center however don’t fear, we mounted it.
Elsie: Yeah, so our new plan is it’s significantly similar to constructed round well being and sustainability as a result of, in my coronary heart, I might love to do that podcast for lots extra years. With our weblog, we really feel very assured that we’ll nonetheless be writing our weblog not directly or kind or perhaps the identical as we are actually once we’re 50. It’s extraordinarily sustainable as a result of we set it up that method and did the little tweaks over time. In order that’s what we’re doing right here and it feels actually good. Okay, so with that mentioned, we’re now not doing mini-episodes. So mini-episodes had been one thing that we first added in at the start of the quarantine. I feel that we did it for lots of causes. We did it as a result of The Girl Gang does it and I like The Girl Gang. It’s one in all my favourite podcasts. I feel that they’re so cute and I might like to be similar to them. It was the start of quarantine, it felt like, we had been gonna be like, at dwelling ceaselessly and perhaps this might be useful for folks. It felt like that is one thing I may do. It was type of like a time while you had been looking for your new movement. Over time, it simply grew to become like a chore to think about increasingly more matters after which to divide. The matters that we’re doing in our mini-episodes may have been actually good matters for the principle episodes. So at this level, we’re feeling like we’d fairly simply do a extra hardy, prime quality, one episode every week, and perhaps they’ll be capable to be a bit bit longer, and so they’ll be capable to have all of our concepts in them. So we predict much less is extra on this case, for positive. Okay. That’s our little what to anticipate while you’re anticipating 2022. Okay, so I bought the perfect listener query on Instagram. The final couple of occasions, I requested I bought so many good questions. I all the time say our podcast viewers is our favourite viewers and also you guys are so humorous and fantastic and filled with hearts. So we determined to make this a complete phase, however unpopular opinion. So we’ve achieved an unpopular opinion, I feel episode earlier than, however lots of people had been requesting, like totally different variations on it. And like, do your unpopular opinions about this subject or this subject. So anyway, I believed it was humorous and so this week, we’re going to begin a phase on widespread opinions and we’re gonna do our first subject, motherhood. In case you’ve by no means been a mom on the web, let me simply inform you that individuals have so many opinions. Like at first it was nerve-racking to me and kinda like nerve-racking after which over time, it’s truly similar to, humorous to me now. Do you’ve got an unpopular opinion but since you’ve got been a mother for seven months?
Emma: Seven months plus being pregnant, no matter that’s price. Yeah, I used to be attempting to think about one. So it simply means like, I feel this and I do know different folks don’t agree type of factor, proper?
Elsie: Yeah. I’m attempting to think about what mine is, too.
Emma: I feel mine proper now, like on the age my son’s at might be that I actually like sleep coaching. I do know some individuals are type of towards it. The 2 that I’m acquainted with, there’s most likely different strategies, is a e book referred to as Child Sensible, which I learn and in addition I’ve had pals learn and type of like digestive for me, like my good friend Katie Day. Additionally a course I took not too long ago that’s referred to as Taking Cara of Infants and the gals title is Cara. So it’s like c a r a, taking cara of infants. They’re barely totally different, like barely totally different strategies. However the entire thought helps your little one study to sleep by the night time. I don’t know in the event that they’re thought of cry it out strategies. I don’t actually know what which means. However I see folks wish to ask issues round that. Nevertheless it positively does contain a bit little bit of crying. I do know some individuals are like, I don’t know, like some folks assume it’s best to by no means let your child cry principally. I feel that if that’s the way you wish to father or mother, it’s your selection however I don’t actually really feel that method. I feel crying is rather like a method that they’re studying to speak. There’s totally different cries. I feel most mother and father can really feel this. Whenever you hear your child cry like you may inform when it’s like there’s one thing fallacious or when it’s extra of a like, oh the place are you.
Elsie: There’s one which makes me run up the steps actually quick and there’s one which makes me stroll actually sluggish.
Emma: Sure, precisely. Sure. Like for me, I most likely would have gotten to a spot the place I’m beginning to hear these except letting him cry a bit bit at occasions. It’s actually onerous to so like I’ve to set a timer and like you already know, go by regardless of the technique that I’m attempting to study as a result of I can’t do it ceaselessly as a result of you already know. Actually, I don’t know when you ought to do it ceaselessly. In case your youngsters crying ceaselessly although, it’s a complete totally different factor, most likely one thing’s fallacious like they’re sick or one thing. However anyway, yeah, I like sleep coaching. In the meanwhile, Oscar goes to sleep round between 7 and 730. He often doesn’t stand up till round 6. He sleeps most of that. He has nights typically the place he wakes up within the night time, however for probably the most half, probably not. It’s nice. That’s pretty new for us within the final couple of months, and I feel it’s partly to Child Sensible and Taking Cara of Infants. So working for us, and I prefer it, however different folks don’t. That’s cool, no matter.
Elsie: Okay, so, like, every time I used to be about to undertake for the primary time, one in all my closest pals instructed me simply comply with your instincts on every part, and like they’re there for a cause. And so I’ve all the time parented by that recommendation, and I positively, like, thumbs as much as that recommendation. I feel that that’s what most individuals want to listen to. I assume my unpopular opinion, is, I don’t know if that is actually unpopular, although it is likely to be widespread, I don’t know. However the factor that I feel is totally different about me from quite a lot of different mother and father that I’m round, is I’m not actually monitoring my youngsters, like pace on developmental milestones and academic milestones. That for me is like, I be ok with that. I’ve had one child who potty skilled tremendous quick and one child tremendous sluggish. I actually am a type of those that’s like, my youngsters not going to be 10 years previous and nonetheless carrying diapers. So I’m similar to, not gonna fear about it. I’m simply gonna let you already know it occurred quicker typically and slower typically. I’m like that about studying. Once we’re studying collectively, I’m tremendous proud and excited when she’s getting phrases. However I’m not gonna push it. It’s not one in all my objectives to make her the quickest reader in her class, I assume is what I’m saying. So I feel that’s my factor is I feel that similar to letting some issues occur, like, I’m gonna nurture it, however I’m not gonna push it and that feels proper to me. I feel perhaps like, I might die on the hill. That seems like a very good parenting strategy to me.
Emma: Yeah, plus your women are so totally different, their personalities. I can’t think about attempting to suit them each into the identical mould.
Elsie: For positive. You may’t evaluate. As a result of I imply, that is without doubt one of the robust issues about entering into faculty and stuff is that you simply do have assessments and parent-teacher calls and issues like that the place they offer you want black and white concrete details about in case your youngsters forward or behind. It’s onerous to not really feel there’s one thing fallacious in case your youngsters aren’t forward in each single line merchandise. However I don’t know, I actually don’t imagine that that’s what makes an clever grownup. I feel that making studying enjoyable, like at this age, making studying enjoyable might be a very powerful factor over every part and potty coaching. I don’t know. I’m similar to winging it. We’ll see.
Emma: I feel that sounds good.
Elsie: Yeah, I don’t even have quite a lot of controversial parenting opinions. I similar to, zone out every time folks begin speaking about it. Generally I feel some folks like sure, it’s best to take it significantly however I feel some folks take it too significantly. They’re attempting to manage it method the place it’s one thing that may’t actually be managed.
Emma: I don’t assume there may be one proper option to do it.
Elsie: For positive there’s not.
Emma: It’s positively do what appears proper to you and such as you’re gonna know your child greatest. Nobody else is so that you and your accomplice and simply do what do you assume helps them.
Elsie: Truthfully, the perfect factor you may most likely do as a father or mother is simply to maintain your head down, father or mother your individual youngsters your individual method, and never fear about what anybody else is doing.
Emma: So on that be aware, I feel like, you don’t essentially want to offer all of your different pals recommendation or touch upon the way in which they’re doing it both. It’s like, you already know, do your factor. I imply if somebody asks you your opinion, that’s nice. However I feel in any other case, it’s like, Nah you’re good, perhaps simply keep in your lane.
Elsie: That’s positively a very good rule in life is to not ship parenting recommendation except you’re requested as a result of every time I obtain parenting recommendation on Instagram, I’ve blocked folks. I do know it’s petty, however I’ve straight-up blocked folks earlier than as a result of they despatched me unsolicited recommendation, as a result of I simply assume that that’s so impolite. Even when they don’t imply it in a imply method. It simply crosses a boundary that shouldn’t be crossed.
Emma: Yeah, I imply, it’s okay to have boundaries. I don’t assume that’s petty. I don’t assume it’s petty to have boundaries in any respect. I feel it’s fairly wholesome.
Elsie: Mommy likes to dam folks. Okay. So we’ve got a listener query.
Voicemail: Hello, Elsie, and Emma, that is Hillary calling from Virginia. My query is, within the new 12 months, I’m launching my very own artistic enterprise. I’m actually excited that I lastly get to work for myself. However I’m additionally feeling pretty daunted by the thought of find out how to arrange my days after working for different corporations for a few years. I’m questioning when you may share suggestions or recommendation on the way you create a schedule, the way you construction your workday, and the way you keep targeted week after week, particularly with all of the distractions of working from dwelling. Thanks a lot.
Elsie: Hey, Hillary. Okay, so we love a pep discuss. We’re skilled pep discuss givers. It’s one in all our strengths as people and dealing from dwelling, I’ll say that Emma and I’ve a pure love for working at dwelling. Some folks should let it develop on them and a few folks have a longing to do it. We naturally like it. So I might by no means wish to work outdoors of the house. I like working at dwelling, it offers me the proper introvert battery charging station whereas I’m getting issues achieved. It’s similar to so many upsides, so few downsides.
Emma: Yep. So perhaps that’s a tip is that if Hillary, if that isn’t the case for her, then fascinated by how she goes to get that social battery recharge. For anybody who works in an workplace, that most likely does it for them however she’s going to have to think about new methods of doing that. However Elsie and I’ve no recommendation on that as a result of it’s not one thing we’d like. I don’t.
Elsie: No I don’t at the moment. So right here’s what works for me, I feel I can truly, simplify this quite a bit. So every time I’m working from dwelling, I might say my largest wrestle is that it’s very simple to get distracted. Particularly when you have a job that you simply like to do, that’s thrilling. I wish to plan forward. I can spend a complete day planning podcasts and typically I do. I can spend a complete day planning weblog posts and typically I do. I can spend hours similar to speaking to folks on Instagram and I get wrapped up in conversations and issues like that, emails, you already know, it goes on and on. It’s very, very, very onerous to remain on monitor. So what I do every single day is I’ve type of like an extra-large post-it be aware, consider like a tiny pad of paper that has a postage sticker. Day by day I rip off the previous one throw it within the trash and every single day I make a brand new listing on my little submit it and I write, often, three issues that I’ve to try this day. One in every of them is likely to be one thing pressing like I have to pay a invoice or I have to have a gathering or I want one thing like that. Then perhaps one in all them is one thing like I wish to work on this, like when Emma was saying deep work. Like I wish to write a weblog submit or one thing that’s one thing that I’ve to get in a headspace for it, I can’t simply do it in 5 totally different settings. I often do them in a single sitting. Then perhaps one in all them shall be like one thing small however annoying. Identical to you already know, I have to make this name. I have to return this electronic mail. I want to speak to this individual about this factor that occurred. So I feel simply making your priorities for that day and actually making like two or three after which you already know staying up in your emails is nice, ending your work early, issues like that, that’s all nice, however there’s gonna be higher and worse days. Working from dwelling for me, it’s all the time like, I all the time really feel like I’m on a curler coaster of being too busy after which having quite a lot of free time and it simply goes forwards and backwards. So I feel simply staying on these most vital duties is what helps me after which when I’ve that additional time then I do type of dive into issues that I’ve been eager to do for some time often.
Emma: Yep, Yep, I agree. Yeah, I take advantage of it, it’s like a weekly planner notepad. You may see your entire week and it’s from our third sister Elise. She’s probably not our third sister, however we name her that. Her model Get to Workbook. It’s her weekly planner. I’ve used it for years, I purchase them for our employees, I like them in order that’s what I take advantage of. Comparable factor to what Elsie does. It similar to has the issues that’s like, simply get these achieved at the moment. Generally I’ll put some bonus issues, however then they’ll get moved all through the week. So it simply depends upon how lengthy sure duties take however apart from that, two different issues is, primary, have a delegated place in your own home, that’s like a workspace. It’s possible you’ll not have an workplace. I do, I occur to have a room that’s like my workplace and I like that. However that might not be the case for you, if not simply consider a delegated area. I’ll say when you’re a laptop computer consumer, which I not too long ago, I used to have a desktop pc now I’m simply laptop computer. I’ll typically in my thoughts assume okay, I’m gonna do a few emails in mattress tonight and I’ll do this. So it’s okay to have a bit little bit of grey space however typically talking, I’ve a delegated like, that is my work spot. I’m now sitting there. I’ve introduced my espresso. I’ve introduced my snack. I’m not going to maneuver from the spot now for the following two hours whereas I full these two issues, or no matter. Then I can go to the lavatory however I gotta end this stuff first. So designated spot. Then the second factor, it’s so simple to get distracted while you make money working from home. For me, quite a lot of it’s cleansing. I’m like, oh, if I may simply throw a load of laundry in Oscar’s out of pajamas, I may simply throw a load of laundry in. Then the following factor you already know, I’m like folding that laundry, after which I’m like, oh, perhaps I simply want to wash out a few of his garments from his closet or clear out some garments for my closet. It’s a slippery slope, the cleansing. So what I’ll do is I’ve to get sure duties achieved earlier than I’ll let myself throw a load of laundry in. So it’s not that it’s off-limits. It’s not that I’m not allowed to do any dishes throughout my workday.
Elsie: You type of reserve it for the top of the day?
Emma: Yeah, or often it’s like, I’ll begin it on my lunch break, and I’ve to get no matter’s probably the most annoying activity that I might most likely postpone, I’ve to get that achieved first. Then I can do the laundry or do some dishes or decide up one thing, you already know, if the eating room tables are filled with junk, decide that up or no matter. Generally I gained’t get there as a result of work simply took up the entire day. I didn’t get to do it. That type of annoys me as a result of I’m like I used to be dwelling all day I want I may have began this laundry. However I wanted to prioritize and that’s simply how the cookie crumbles typically of us. That’s type of what I might say is consider these distractions and don’t make them like pink buttons, such as you’re not allowed. However construct them into your day and guarantee that they arrive in a spot the place you’ve prioritized work first.
Elsie: Yeah, I feel working from dwelling is without doubt one of the greatest issues on this planet however when you’re new to it, simply give your self like a season, or perhaps even two to get used to it and make enhancements. Be like, how can I make my workspace higher? I do these little issues like plug-in sure issues on the finish of every single day in order that’s how I need it within the morning. Like little issues like that may make a giant distinction. It’s no matter you want it to be proper. So simply modify it as you go. Okay, so to shut this out, we bought a humorous enterprise thought query. Effectively, it’s not humorous, I feel it’s a enjoyable query. So we bought this query on Instagram and it’s, when you had been beginning a enterprise at the moment from scratch, what enterprise would you begin? I take this to imply, what enterprise do you assume may very well be a banger proper now, not similar to what do you assume sounds enjoyable, as a result of I feel beginning a bookmobile sounds enjoyable and that’s what I wish to say. I feel that what they actually imply is like, an app thought or a web site thought, or one thing that might earn money. Like what do you assume?
Emma: I assume so? Yeah. I imply, I wrote down two issues. One’s like what I feel I might be doing if I wasn’t doing my present profession. If I actually had is like, begin over such as you and I by no means labored collectively, like what would I wish to be doing now. So ones like that after which ones like, type of like my dream job that I do wish to do in the future, however it’s not as a lot about cash, though I need it to earn money however you already know. So I’ll begin with what I might be doing if it wasn’t doing this. I might like to personal a cleansing enterprise. I used to wash flats and homes after I lived in Los Angeles proper after school and I cherished it. I believed it was actually enjoyable to enter a home and it’s so messy after which by the point you permit, it’s simply that earlier than and after feeling like I achieved one thing. So I like that after which I additionally assume I might most likely be fairly good at rising that sort of enterprise. Just like the logistics of it and type of operating it, and I feel it may play into, you already know, since quick time period leases had been on the rise the previous couple of years and similar to totally different folks working from dwelling, I feel that’s type of modified the sport a bit bit, too. I may see myself doing a enterprise like that, a home cleansing, small enterprise cleansing sort enterprise, and I might most likely actually get pleasure from it.
Emma: So the opposite one is perhaps not what they’re asking, however like, type of a dream job factor I wish to do in the future, and I feel I’ve talked about it on the podcast earlier than it was most likely like perhaps two years. Sometime, I might like to personal a mini-golf course.
Elsie: You’ve talked about this earlier than.
Emma: sure, I wish to make the sculptures the place you must hit the ball round them or like goes by it. I simply assume it may very well be so creative and enjoyable. Then additionally, I might like to flip it for the vacations so it’s very spooky for Halloween, after which it’s like very vacation for Christmas.
Elsie: Oh my gosh.
Emma: I like it.
Elsie: So what I might do if I had been similar to, I swiftly don’t have a job so I’ve a full day of free time, put that on the market. Then additionally similar to what can I take advantage of my skills to earn money? I feel I might do home flipping. That’s one thing that I feel I might be actually good at. I might get pleasure from it however I don’t in any respect wish to do it like on this section of life with little youngsters and having two companies prefer it’s a tough no, it’s not one thing I feel I may do. However I do assume in one other life that that will be one thing that will be a very good profession for me, even similar to a option to earn money for a few years or no matter. So yeah, I feel perhaps sometime I may see myself doing that after I’m older. So far as my model of Emma’s mini-golf like my for enjoyable issues that it’s not essentially for the cash, however the pleasure is there and the nostalgia. So I mentioned earlier than I might like to a bookmobile and I feel that will very significantly be enjoyable. I might not do it for cash although. It will be like for enjoyable, for the love of children books, for the magic of childhood with youngsters.
Emma: So what do you imply by a bookmobile as a result of often, that’s like a factor the library does? So is that this similar to you’re gifting away books, you drive round and provides away books?
Elsie: I imply, they may very well be on the market however like yeah. It’s a touring bookstore in a van or a bus or a cool little camper or one thing like that. Then the opposite factor, I feel I actually will do that sometime, I’ve all the time wished to do that since I used to be about 17 or 18 years previous, I’ve all the time had this dream and I can’t have it’s I might like to personal an actual mattress and breakfast. A real mattress and breakfast, not an Airbnb, an actual mattress and breakfast. That’s like a lodge, the place typically they’ve wedding ceremony receptions. In our small city that you already know that they had like these after which ones the place you spend the night time and also you truly like have breakfast collectively within the huge fancy eating room. I’m into that type of factor. I feel I may see myself doing that, perhaps as a retirement dream sometime.
Emma: And you’ll rent my firm to do the cleansing.
Elsie: Oh my gosh, that’s a enjoyable query. I might reply that one each week and doubtless say one thing totally different as a result of it’s enjoyable to think about enterprise concepts. Okay, so thanks a lot for listening. We shall be again subsequent week with our reactions to the 2022 pattern studies that are fairly stunning this 12 months. You’re gonna love them, Emma. They’re actually humorous. In case you’re having fun with the podcast, please take a second to depart us a overview wherever you take heed to our podcast. If you already know any pals who like podcasts, simply please share our podcast, simply share it round. We love seeing while you submit our podcast on Instagram. Meaning quite a bit to us each week. So we’re blissful to be again and we shall be again subsequent week.